By Daniel Benor, MD ABHM     

WHEE can be excellent for resolving conflicts in the workplace. By reducing stress, distress, anxieties, fears, angers and self-doubts, WHEE can remove barriers to communications and enhance positive feelings that promote cooperation and teamwork.     

Here are some self-explanatory notes of appreciation with a suggestion from me for enhancing the uses of WHEE, taken from email correspondence with a WHEE Level 1 Practitioner.


Hi Dan,

Thinking of our conversation about level 2 training, Journaling and coaching I had an experience today that required WHEE. I thought I'd share my journaling to get some feedback. Maybe we can talk about how to set up a coaching program linking to level 2 training.
 
One thing's for sure. THIS ISN'T SIMPLE!!
 
From my WHEE Journal:

Trigger. My client company has hired a new consultant, ‘Paul’, a former CEO of a client organization. He has been facilitating a strategic planning process with the senior management team. I have participated in some of the meetings.  Recently he gave us an Operational Planning process to complete for one of our strategies as prep for an upcoming round of Planning meetings. I'm a member of a team on a particular selling process project for which I am the developer and coach. I am a team member for designing this process.

I did a draft Plan using the template that was provided by Paul. I ran it by my team leader and then sent it to Paul. I received a call from Paul, which resulted in an conversation about the document. Immediately it was clear that we were at odds in terms of language, like what a "strategy" is and how the format should work. What I had done did not fit Paul’ picture of what he as the facilitator wants. I experienced a high level reaction during and after the call. [IS THERE ANYTHING YOU CAN SAY ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS AT THAT TIME?] More than I've had in a while, other than stressing over the sale of our house. So I applied WHEE.
 
Cleansing the negative charge:
 
Starting at a SUDS of ‘10’ it took five rounds to get to ‘1’. Still at low level upset, I couldn't shake it completely. I could still feel it in my body. Probably more like a ‘2’ that I wanted to be a ‘1’.
The words I was using were: Even though I feel threatened, angry and fearful when I think about my conversation with Paul, I still love myself..
 
Later, after some thought and more WHEE, it felt like zero and ready for the positive affirmation. I wondered if it had just subsided by that time [on its own].
 
After the five repetitions I got out the WHEE instructions sheet and noticed I'd lost sight of some rigor. I had left out the "visualize and feel" the self-love piece. So used the format to include that. It was good to refresh the language and follow the format you provide.
 
After I got to '1' I began to think about what was causing my reaction. I could see
 
Feeling anger at feeling pushed and dominated.
Anger at feeling that I was being made to feel like I wasn't "getting it".
Some shock. This sort of thing is rare. I seldom have arguments about connecting on ideas. I felt like either I wasn't getting it or he wasn't getting it. But him not getting what I was [thinking and ]doing wasn't an option.  
Feeling threatened. Am I not getting this? What's he going to say to others? Expecting it would be something like “Mike's a dodo or a resister.”
Fear of being pushed out the door.
 
Asking myself, “What does this remind me of from the past? Where have I had this experience before?”

- Experiences where I have come to a point with partners where something had to give. We seemingly almost overnight reach a tipping point and we find ourselves on different tracks.  I felt labelled. Helpless. So I accepted that and moved on.
- Recalling that my father was that same sort of dominant person. Not listening to my ideas. Pushing me aside, in effect.
- Recalling school experiences where I felt lost. That was quite common:)

Affirming the positive charge: Going to the positive affirmation seems complicated because of all the junk that comes up. Not sure if or how to address those ghostly feelings. The concrete reality is there may be a power struggle going on. Time will tell.
 
Positive affirmation: No matter what happens I stay open and balanced and I love myself....
 
Simple this isn't :)
 
Mike
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Good processing, Mike.

Suggestion:
When you find other, similar feelings and memories sitting in the same ‘file drawer’ as the current issue, clear the old ones – either separately or with bundling together with the recent one.

Elegantly simple!

Blessings

Dan
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Hi again Dan.

Your book was waiting for me when I got home just now. I quickly thumbed through and am looking forward to reading it carefully over the next while. But right away I resonated based on my WHEE experience yesterday and today.

Last evening I sat quietly and carefully went through the positive affirmation.

Today as I walked into the meeting, the first guy I saw was Paul, my trigger from yesterday. I could see he was bit distant, probably expecting me to have attitude. I found, as affirmed, without thinking about it or "trying", I felt total comfortable. Not preoccupied with yesterday at all. As the meeting unfolded and opportunities arose, I found myself being quite outspoken, and lo and behold, Peter was supporting me. Wow, I was thinking, this is interesting! Well why not, after all. At the end of the day, after most had, left it was just Peter and my partner left and Peter started challenging some ideas that I'm working on. Again, without thinking about it I found I responded "comfortably" and because I wasn't in reaction I was able to challenge him back in a constructive way and he responded well. We had a good exchange and came through fine.

Interesting to confirm this experience to myself and add to my ‘WHEE worked file’.

Thanks Dan!
 
Talk soon,
 
Mike
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These are the sorts of responses that are commonly reported in the workplace and in family relationships when WHEE is used to deal with problematic feelings.

Your feedback on this article is welcomed.

Dan
DB@paintap.com

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